holiness not happiness

well, my philosophy of marriage has always been that it is more about holiness than it is happiness...( and don't jump to any conclusions,...our marriage isn't just about duty or doing what you're suppossed to do...or lacking happines...) our marriage is wonderful. But i still think marriage isn't always easy and it isn't something you can opt out of or just leave when you don't feel 'in love' anymore. i think love is a choice, it's a choice we make all the time, like tonight for instance i was mad at mike and he was mad at me and the details don't really matter i just felt like in that moment when iw as mad at mike God was asking me to show him love anyways, (even if mike didn't notice) that i had to do things that would show my love for him and my motivation had to be love not spite., So i made him tea and i washed the dishes for him(cause he's the one who does dishes..i make cook , he cleans..) but anyways, there were lots of dishes today cause i made soup and breakfast and last night's cups and dishes.So i did it, i made him tea and i did the dishes and finished dinner and it isn't so much that anything radical happened to us it's just that i felt like God was speaking to me again that marriage is not about happiness but about holiness.....and look i found this book cover that says the same thing ( i had the idea before i saw the book...) but i think it's true. and i haven't read that book but i probably will one day because i definitely don't have this thing figured out but i really do think anyone getting married or married i think we all have to remember that we are called to love unconditionally ....we are not called just to love our husbands/wives when we feel like it or when they make us happy...it isn't a score card, and life isn't fair, no matter what love is a choice that we have to make and to be unconditional in the love that we give. so those are my thoughts for the night.....