Wednesday, February 20, 2008

Major Disappointment

Well...tonight i went to a birth center to check it out. They have a tour every wednesday. And i loved it. it had beautiful birthing rooms, very much like a relaxing bedroom....a whirlpool tub to labor in or give birth, a nice bathroom with a big shower...and then came the time for questions..and my only question tonight was if it was there a problem if my first was born by c-section. And the answer i didn't expect came and brought on my major disappointment. Birthing center's in wisconsin are not allowed to have VBAC's. (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean ) So, no matter how nice the birth center was - I cannot give birth there. But i could have a home birth (isn't that weird) but insurance doesn't cover home birth , only hospital or birth center. So, i'm kind of stuck. I do have an appointment with the owner of the birth center in 1 1/2 weeks and hopefully she will be able to help me figure out my options. I'm very disappointed. i wish i could just fly back to Vancouver and have elizabeth deliver my baby again. And here midwives do not have hospital privileges So even if i see a midwife for my whole pregnancy when it comes time to deliver the doctor has to deliver. It's soo frustrating and i feel like the US is behind the times and need to get with it. So i'm kind of at a loss.

5 comments:

Heather said...

that does suck and makes you wonder why they are so uneducated!!! grrr. sending positive thoughts your way.

Leanne said...

now, there must be some midwives that do stuff here in SD like they do in canada, but i went to a "planning for baby" seminar last week and here they work at the hospital. they informed us at the meeting that "midwives aren't like they used to be...[you know], they don't deliver at home like back in the day. now you can have an eppidural and a midwife and be in the hospital." besides that, you have to pay the same rate whether you choose a midwife or a doctor and you have to deliver at the same clinic and everything. i thought it was really close-minded of them to think that of course everyone is going to want to deliever at a hospital. anyway, enough of that. i agree with you that the states seem to be so behind on the whole birthing thing. sorry to hear that you're disappointed and unmotivated. thanks for your comment the other day. :)

Audrey Whitesides said...

jessi, that sucks. i am excited about your meeting though, she may really be able to help you. i do encourage you to keep trying and don't give up, its your birth experience and its very important! use that inner fight girl!! and who knows, maybe God wants to provide for you to have a home birth! maybe i can be your doula...for free!

Emily Deu said...

that's so frustrating!!!! Will be praying for a good meeting!

MaryHuffman said...

Sorry to hear that. You could come to NZ and we allow mothers who have had previous c-section to give birth naturally if all goes well. Will pray the meeting goes well and it works out. Please pray for Joshua this Thurs for his operation. I'm pretty nervous of the idea of him going under anasetic. thanks lots of love ...